Happiness is a choice you make that requires serious effort. I read this quote recently written by Josh Billings, “half of the troubles of our life can be traced to saying yes too quickly and not saying no soon enough.” This hit me so hard. In today's world, most of us are unable to understand the need of saying NO. This is because of peer pressure, judging eyes, feeling that it’s being selfish, and so on.
Pal, it’s time to start saying NO for your mental, physical, and spiritual health! If you don’t want to go shopping, don't go. If you don’t want to do a certain activity, don’t do it. I am not saying that this is easy and fast. It is a slow process but that polite art of saying NO will be on your nerves if you are determined. It is a part of self-improvement and sooner or later you will see the positive effects of this.
For beginners, there are three tips to hack the art of saying NO — which indeed is very important for your mental health.
- Realize that you don’t owe anybody anything.
The most important person for you is YOU and being happy is in your hand. You are not duty-bound to do something for someone. Whatever you do, eat, walk, dress up, people will always judge you but understand that you can never control the opinion of everybody. So don’t let it ruin you or your days.
- Define your priority list.
List down your priority like what is more important for you. If you feel like you are not sure or doubtful from deep inside your heart, just say no. Decide what matters the most to you. It is you who can take charge of your own life and happiness. No one is going to tell you that do this specific task, and you will be happy, not even me. So take time to analyze yourself and understand this concept.
- Keep it short and simple.
Trust me, saying a clear no is very helpful than beating around the bush. If you can’t attend a certain party, say “unfortunately, I have a conflict and I can’t attend it.” Don’t provide too much information. Keep it short and crisp.